It takes a great deal of the pressure off of them and the relationship.
Older women aren’t inclined rush into a commitment too quickly.
If she feels you are totally into learning about her that is a real turn on, especially if you have a sense of humor. Just like you don’t want someone to misrepresent themselves to you, don’t misrepresent to them. She will want to meet you in a public place and allow her to make arrangements to meet, mainly in her hood. If you can’t then text her and make a plan for another time. We know at this stage about not changing the other person but accepting them the way they are. If you have children, don’t be afraid of introducing her to them.
It’s uncomfortable for both, and there’s no way of having any kind of fun or spontaneous conversation. If the picture you have online is what she will see in person, don’t come walking in looking nothing like your photo, either being fifty pounds heavier, the photo was taken when you were twenty years younger.
Have you considered dating a younger man, but are afraid of getting your heart broken, being humiliated and ultimately dumped for a younger woman? Our culture’s discomfort with reversing the norm of the younger woman-older man dynamic may come from a deep-rooted evolutionary instinct driving women to choose the older, wiser, more powerful alpha male over the untested young buck.
Or, it could be caused by something as shallow and immediate as a woman not wanting anyone to mistake her date for her younger brother or, God forbid, her son.
Are you interested in a fling, a committed long-term relationship or friends with benefits?
If you don’t know what you’re looking for, you won’t know if the man you’re dating is the right fit.
Again, it’s a turnon to a woman to have the man go out of his way to meet a woman. Same goes if you are going to meet at a certain time, and you are going to be late, text her and let her know. Neither one of you knows ahead of time where this will go. The most important is in getting to know one another, having fun, being honest and upfront. But once you go that route if you feel uncomfortable don’t do it. Give us at least some sample of what you look like. Please don’t make your profile sooooo long that it will totally bore us and even though you may look good, you will be passed by because of overwhelm. Most cases if a woman doesn’t respond to your first response, it means she’s not interested. Be aware that if we see something ain’t workin for us, but working for you and we can’t work it out, that’s probably the end of the relationship. If she’s desperate and is afraid of being alone, stay away, far, far away. She has had a lot of experience in having fun with children.On the other hand, older women are already established, are more comfortable in their skin and are finished with all the BS games they played when they were younger.This is a big reason why younger men find older women so attractive. If the woman offers to call you first, know that she is not afraid of making the first move and doesn’t conform to the traditional old ways. And ask yourself if you want to be with someone who has totally misrepresented herself.