We don’t like chit-chat if it’s not towards a purpose, it’s just not how we’re wired.
On the other hand, you definitely do NOT want to come from a place of blaming, assuming or attacking.
It’s not the last time that it will happen and I can tell you that as good as I try to be, I’ll occasionally do what you’re talking about… A trap that I see a lot of couples fall into is that one person is annoyed by what the other one is doing, but instead of figuring out a constructive way to address it, they just hold resentment towards the other person to a degree.
When I say address it, I don’t necessarily mean talking it out.
He says he wants to be with me forever and that he loves me- I mean, could see us being like that but does he really mean it or is he just saying what he thinks I want to hear?
He’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me, but sometimes he won’t call or text the whole day.