I have met some who had it all but God insisted they give it up to go and further the gospel. Many ladies forget that good Christian men look for women who share similar non-romantic, non-spiritual values: Sure he should be romantic and sure he must share those spiritual values but eerrmmm ladies…these Christian brothers are looking for those other character traits as well that speak to the OPERATION of your possible lives together.Dependability, thriftiness, work ethic, time management, hard work, follow-through and so on.These men would have had a rough time finding a wife today. Abraham calling sister Sarah aside after church and saying “Errrmmm Sarah you know I love you right? “Look baby…I really care about you and want to spend the rest of my life taking care of you…Soooo God wants to take us somewhere …but I have no idea where. In fact, I’ve just been anointed King…buuutttt I’m kinda living in the bushes right now and on the run from the King I’m supposed to replace.” Or Joseph.You want to see him as he is but you cover yourself up in perfectly filtered Instagram pictures, hair extensions, push up bras, makeup and layers of stuff that make it impossible to see who you really are.You are lazy with not much follow-through but you want a man who can stay up all night working on a project.
That’s how you earn a man’s respect…when you can show him that what he HAS does not define who you are. Just because Ruth could get down and work, didn’t mean she couldn’t look pretty and tidy up (Ruth 3:3) 4.So the tone may be a bit direct not because I am brash but because I am writing to Women not girls and one thing I know about women is that contrary to the opinion that they want you to beat around the bush, when it comes to things that are really important, they want you to tell them like it is.They would rather know now, shed a tear or two and start working ASAP to move out, move up, move on or move forward so they don’t waste more time doing the same thing and not getting the outcomes they want. All your single girlfriends AND male friends should read this. Why can’t our wonderful Christian sisters find their Boaz, David or Joseph? Many Christian ladies want a man that “knows where he is going”…Many ladies pre-qualify their leads: This is one of the most CRITICAL reasons.In fact, there is a powerful 2 part series on just that HERE: 5.