They can drive, so they want to take you out on real dates, they don’t have as much parental supervision because they’re older, and they may want to take things further sexually than you’re ready for.
I don’t mean to say that a relationship with an older guy or can’t work.
Odds are they won’t be super excited to learn that their 14- year-old daughter wants to date a 17-year-old boy (or their 17-year-old daughter going out with a 22-year-old guy, for that matter).
But if you keep them in the loop about your relationship—and don’t lie to them or sneak around behind their backs—they’ll feel better about the situation, which can translate into more freedom for you. Have you or any of your friends ever dated an older guy?
But are there greater risks to consider with a large age gap between partners?
Ethan Bennett, 26, and Mia Thompson, 18, haven’t been affected by an eight-year difference — two years more than the formula’s appropriate “cut off age.” The pair met on the University of Minnesota campus, which offered a free prep session led by college students.
Bennett, a senior in college, and Thompson, a junior in high school, didn’t think about dating each other when they first met.
“To be honest, if (Mia) never told me her age, I would have thought that she was close to the same age as me,” Bennett said.
But dating an older guy also brought up much more grown up issues.
Like how older boys often expect more out of a relationship than we had been used to.
Teen boys also expressed less confidence in navigating relationships than girls of the same age.
That helps explain what is fairly common knowledge — age gap relationships among teens tend to be between older males and younger females.